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I Grew Long, Relaxed & Healthy Hair! Here Are 5 Tips So You Can Too



Sharmaine Oddoye - BellaNaija - April2015

It is sometimes difficult to make time to actually take care of your relaxed hair. It involves a lot of effort and most of the time we just slap on a weave or wig and call it a day.

Some women spend more time taking care of their weaves and wigs than their own actual hair, which means it never has a chance to grow because of lack of attention!

Some people may feel that if your hair is relaxed then it can’t be healthy or grow to a long length. But I love taking care of my relaxed hair and have been able to grow it to the long length I have now.

So, here are a few of my favourite tips and tricks to help you out if you are on a new hair journey, or if you have decided to take better care of your hair!


Sharmaine a while back

Sharmaine a while back

1. Protective Styling
The best way to grow out your hair is to make sure your ends are protected 80% of the time. Your ends are the oldest and weakest part of your hair, and having them exposed is definitely leading them to breakage. Something as simple as your hair rubbing the collar of your shirt can cause extreme breakage and thin ends. You will notice that your ends will become ‘see through’ once you start experiencing breakage. And at this point, there is no turning back.

That being said, protective styles are your best friend! Buns and up-dos are my go-to protective styles. Braids and weaves are also great protective styles as long as they are done well. However, make sure you don’t keep your braids/weave in for more than 3 months at a time.

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Ensure you are keeping your hair underneath well moisturized as well and make sure the braids and weave sew-in aren’t done too tight in the first place. This way, when you take out your braids/weave, your hair will be as good as new!

2. Deep Conditioning
Deep conditioning is great because it allows you to restore all the moisture and nutrients that have been lost. It also gives your hair that extra tender loving care it needs!

I like to mix oils like Coconut Oil, Shea Oil & Moringa Oil etc in with my deep conditioner for added moisture and a deep condition also gets rid of that frizzy look that some relaxed hair tends to have.

Each strand of hair on your head has an outer layer called the cuticle layer. This layer protects the inner layer called the cortex. Deep conditioning your hair keeps your it’s cuticle layer flat and properly sealed which keeps your hair looking smooth and shiny.

Deep conditioning also locks moisture inside your hair strands, shields the hair from damage and repairs whatever damage it has already sustained.

3. Reduced Heat
This is one of the main reasons why I have been able to retain so much length! I use heat on my hair once a month, the other times I dry my hair in a bun or I do a twist out. This way, I am able to wear my hair with some texture, which means I don’t have to have that bone straight look you can almost only achieve with heat.

Basically, we have unique chemical bonds in each strand of hair which are extremely sensitive to heat. These bonds usually break when we straighten, curl or blow dry our hair. Using heat once in a while is fine, but the constant use of heat permanently damages these bonds and leads to physical breakage.

Excess heat also removes the moisture from your hair, which leads to dry hair, which leads to brittle hair, which leads to breakage!

4. Castor Oil Scalp Massages
Scalp massages are awesome; scalp massages with castor oil are even better. This type of massage is wonderful because it stimulates the blood circulation in that area which in turn leads to hair growth. When the scalp is “tight” from stress, circulation and hair growth are impeded; the massages do the direct opposite allowing circulation and hair growth.

Of course it is always great to get pampered, and scalp massages help relax you in general. Using castor oil on your scalp is beneficial because it lubricates and conditions the scalp, helping prevent flakes and dry scalp without the use of harsh chemical shampoos. It also strengthens the roots of the hair and nourishes the hair-shafts, promoting new hair growth and strengthening current hair.

Another great benefit of castor oil is that it’s great for softening and conditioning the hair, making it more manageable. I usually massage my scalp every night for one or two minutes before bed with castor oil, and then moisturize my strands with my Cantu Daily Moisturizer.

5. Moisturizing
Of course your hair is losing moisture every second to the atmosphere, especially if you live in a dry climate. Because of this, you need to make sure you are replenishing the lost moisture on a daily basis. Dry hair means brittle hair, brittle hair means breakage, so moisturizing your hair makes it more malleable which means it can withstand friction.

One way to add moisture to your hair is to use a moisturizer daily. I love the Cantu Daily Moisturizer or the ORS Daily Moisturizer and I use it to feed my hair.

You can also wash your hair with shampoos that have humectants in them or incorporate glycerin and natural humectants into your routine such as honey, shea butter and jojoba oil. Humectants are great as they draw moisture from the atmosphere into your hair.

Another way you can keep your hair healthy and moisturized is by stepping up your water drinking game. This helps keep your skin and hair hydrated.


These are the main things that have helped me retain a lot of length in my hair since I got a relaxer. My hair is extremely healthy, soft, shiny and manageable.

Do you have relaxed hair? Share your tips for retaining length so we can all have long healthy hair together.

About the Blogger: Sharms Online is maintained by Sharmaine who currently holds an MSc in Marketing from the University of Leicester, UK and a BA in Business, Organizations and Society from Franklin & Marshall College, USA. Aside from 6 years of blogging on Sharms Online, Sharmaine has experience the Marketing industry in Ghana, having worked for various firms such as Multichoice Ghana and L'Oreal throughout her career. Sharmaine has also collaborated with brands like Vlisco, Maybelline NY Gh, Dark & Lovely Ghana and Sigma Cosmetics on the blog which has allowed her to merge her passion for beauty and fashion with her expertise in marketing. About the Blog: Sharms Online is a beauty/fashion/lifestyle blog which aims to empower and inspire Ghanaian women to be the best they can be. This is a safe space where Ghanaian women can ask questions about life, health, beauty, fashion and more. The main focus is to provide practical and easy beauty tutorials as well as fashion inspiration that all types of women can follow. Sharms Online also aims to showcase hidden gems all over Ghana (beauty, salons, boutiques, travel locations, restaurants etc). Find Sharms Online Instagram & Twitter - @sharmsonline [email protected]


  1. @edDREAMZ

    April 16, 2015 at 3:24 pm

    Lovely… That babe on that pic just stole my heart……

  2. Africhic

    April 16, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    Waiting for the natural hair ninjas in 1, 2, 3…………………

    • Jane Public

      April 16, 2015 at 3:59 pm


    • Just Sayin'

      April 16, 2015 at 7:09 pm

      Trust me,

      I’ve been waiting for this article for a veeeeeeeerrrrrrrrryyyy loooooonnnnnnnggggg time !

      My natural hair is thick, twists very easily, is tough to comb and my scalp is sensitive.

      All attempts I have made to join the team natural movement have failed.

      I’m sticking to my creamy crack! 😉

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:51 pm

      hahaa I also tried the natural hair, but it just wasn’t for me; too much time and effort involved. For now, I am enjoying the creamy crack!! Thank you for reading!

    • Shandi

      April 16, 2015 at 10:13 pm

      Your comment is out of place and unnecessary. “Natural hair ninjas”, grow up child. This isn’t a debate or competition. Smh, some of you start pointless pandemonium.

    • Valerie

      November 26, 2016 at 11:26 pm

      Actually..what she said is true.. Not all naturalistas do try to convince relaxed girls to go natural but if you look at some famous vloggers on youtube, their comments always have some naturalistas asking them to go natural and saying that they would look more beautiful. So….this lady was only being humourous. You took is so seriously even if its the truth. She wouldn’t have said it if it wasn’t true. She wasn’t actually debating..or creating a competition. You took it waaaaaay overboard, calling her a child…otherwise calling her an immature person. You were out of place,not her. You’re Welcome 🙂

  3. Vieve

    April 16, 2015 at 3:55 pm

    I am also growing my relaxed hair and its about 16inches long, very full and healthy. All the tips stated in d article are on point.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 4:06 pm

      Thanks Vieve!!

    • Mike Anyebe

      April 16, 2015 at 4:43 pm

      I lov my wif’s hair infact its one of d major reason y I married ha. But now she is losing that hair. Pls. send those TIPS of yours to this Email address in other to save my mariage thanks.

    • Onye

      April 16, 2015 at 7:24 pm

      my dear your hair is short o

    • Oh Please!

      April 17, 2015 at 10:06 am

      Michael your commenting is disgusting. Better grow your own hair if that’s what you eat.

    • Felicia

      March 14, 2016 at 9:43 am

      Hello, pls am in Ghana, how do I get d Jamaican black castor oil? Thanx.

  4. dee

    April 16, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    Keeping weaves/braids in for 3 months at a time? Haba magajia! After 5/6 weeks your hair starts to get matted. Tangling = breakage!

    Great tips though. It’s simple. Deep condition and moisturize plus protective styling.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 4:29 pm

      Yep its definitely not advisable to have your braids in for so long. Some people like to push the 5/6 week limit a little bit. Thanks for reading!!

    • thisisnotmyname

      April 21, 2015 at 7:28 pm

      I was thinking the same, 3 months is quite a stretch. I guess she meant at the very most. A good read all the same.

  5. oj

    April 16, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    Praise God! Someone finally spoke about relaxed hair.

  6. Jhennique

    April 16, 2015 at 4:44 pm

    Keeping weaves for 3 months long? i dont think thats advisable in this climate

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:50 pm

      Yep its definitely not advisable to have your braids in for so long. Some people like to push the 5/6 week limit a little bit which is why I stated 3months as the max. Thanks for reading!!

    • Rosa

      July 25, 2015 at 2:03 am

      I have left my braids in for 2-3 months many times and never had an issue hair grows very well all depends on the person ..getting braids done over frequently can also damage hair and stress the edges! Love your article by the way!

    • jemofalljems

      March 18, 2016 at 5:57 am

      I think it all depends on how well you take care of your weave and it’s foundation. I had my weave in for 11 weeks and experienced tremendous growth (2.5 inches). BUT it had a great foundation of braids, very thin mesh to hold my tracks in place ( a new popular trend when wearing weaves). I also when my hair every two weeks, used a small bottle with a nozzle to impart water and oiks to my hair every other day. and i deep conditioned My leave out regularly. It’s all in the way you take care of your hair! : )

  7. minnietope

    April 16, 2015 at 4:47 pm

    Great tips, thanks.
    How often should the hair be retouched,

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:34 pm

      Hey! personally I relax my hair every 3 months, I find that I’m able to retain more length that way. However, from 6 weeks onwards is fine. I have a lot more info about my hair care and products I use on my blog

  8. Sharms

    April 16, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    Hi! Yep its definitely not advisable to have your braids/weave in for so long. Some people like to push the limit sometimes, which is why I used 3 months as the limit. I usually recommend 5-6weeks. Thanks for reading!!

    • Taffy

      June 16, 2016 at 3:41 am

      Hi which product do you use to relax your hair

  9. Meah

    April 16, 2015 at 5:14 pm

    Nice article. Thanks Sharms.

    I read somewhere that water helps with hair moisture so i spritz my hair with a combination of water, coconut and amla oil. Is this helpful?

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:49 pm

      Yes it works the water provides moisture and the oils help seal the moisturizer in! Thank you for reading

  10. Precious

    April 16, 2015 at 5:29 pm

    Please, what are the tips for deep conditioning?
    MInnietope also asked how often should the hair be retouched

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:36 pm

      Hi! Thank you for reading! personally I relax my hair every 3 months, I find that I’m able to retain more length that way. However, from 6 weeks onwards is fine. I have a lot more info about my hair care and products I use on my blog

      For deep conditioning, I usually mix my deep conditioner (ORS Hair Mayonnaise) with shea oil, coconut oil and castor oil and leave it in my hair for a few hours before I wash it out. I also deep condition every 2 weeks.

  11. deb

    April 16, 2015 at 5:33 pm

    Next time mix your water with a leave in conditioner then rub(seal) ur hair with oil. I also advise a protein treatment every 6 weeks. Cover your hair in a satin scarf, do not use heat directly on ur hair. Always CONDITION!!!!

  12. Glo

    April 16, 2015 at 5:36 pm

    Gorgeous Personality…. Gorgeous Hair…. Keep It up.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:36 pm

      Thank you so much!

  13. Lami

    April 16, 2015 at 5:43 pm

    Last Sept, i was at the point of cutting my hair, my hair was thin and scanty. I decided to use texturiser instead of relaxer and i have been using coconut oil, Wild growth oil (it is amazing), shea butter. I wash my hair every 2weeks and deep condition it before weaving it. The result is fantastic, my hair is healthy and has never grown this much my entire life…

  14. Kili

    April 16, 2015 at 6:22 pm

    Nice one.
    Permit me to add stuff that work for me…lol that have work for me over time.
    Carrying my natural hair ( permed natural hair of course) more than weave on and all.. I fix and braid when I start having undergrowth.
    I wash my hair once a week, this I always do. I deep condition every 2 weeks.
    I use wide tooth comb always on my hair.
    I comb gently also. From tips to roots.
    I secure my hair up in a bun and tie a satin scarf to sleep.

    Before styling in the mornings, I run wet hands through my hair and then use coconut oil afterwards or shea- butter.
    Or sometimes I use Dark and Lovely leave in conditioner sparing then use Dark and Lovely Moisture Plus.

    Another big deal is application of relaxer.
    My hair has changed ever since I discovered my hair guy. He makes sure I don’t lose hair in the process of application. He is well trained in that field. So that’s it guys.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:48 pm

      Of course! We are here to learn from each other and your tips are spot on!! Thank you for reading!

    • Kili

      April 16, 2015 at 11:02 pm


  15. seyi

    April 16, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    Massage scalp every night ke!!
    She must not have kids!!

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:33 pm

      Lol! No I don’t, but if anything matters to you, you have to make a little extra effort for it. Thank you for reading!

  16. eme

    April 16, 2015 at 6:36 pm

    I’m 48, female and I have been on natural n low cut for over 7 yrs now. My hair is going bald! It’s thining n scanty, especially frm d middle of my head to d front. My hairdresser says it’s age. How can I make it fuller?

    • kemi

      April 16, 2015 at 8:32 pm

      It may not be age, my grandmother at the age of 80+ still had her hair full and long before she slept. I learnt that some drug can affect the growth of one hair

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:37 pm

      Generally, I advise castor oil for hair growth. Thank you for reading!

    • na beans to drop 16

      April 16, 2015 at 9:40 pm

      do onion juice deep conditioning every 3 days. It works, helped me with my hairline

    • Anon

      April 16, 2015 at 10:47 pm

      What’s the “formula” please?

    • Shandi

      April 16, 2015 at 11:54 pm

      Buy Castor Oil, it’s quick thick. You can mix it with a light oil like Coconut Oil and apply it on your hair. You can decide to use it on its own, but it’s quite thick. You can take B Complex and Folic Acid.
      Also, get one onion, cut them into chunks, put into a food processor, add a table spoon of honey and Aloe Vera Gel, with few drops of Eucalyptus or Peppermint Oil, and blend till you get a smooth paste. Apply on your hair, from the roots, to the scalp, apply all over your hair. Leave for 30minutes-1 hour (it has a strong smell), rinse with water and then shampoo. And of course, condition afterwards. This will help stimulate hair growth, reduce hair loss, and it also helps with dandruff. Do it once a week. Works well on both natural and relaxed hair.

  17. NaijaPikin

    April 16, 2015 at 7:37 pm

    So i went from relaxed hair, to natural, to relaxed, to natural.

    The one thing i’ll say is if you take care of your hair (natural or relaxed) it will be healthy. If you choose to relax, some extra steps in addition to the ones already provided
    – Let a beautician handle your perms and colors if you aren’t skilled. Relaxing hair is more than just throwing relaxer on your head. There’s a lot more a true beautician will factor in.
    – Wash your hair and condition regularly. At most every 2 weeks. I wash my hair even if i have braids in.
    – Avoid tight ponytails, they pull your edges.
    – If you have braids in and the edges start hanging, take em out cos it’ll break your hair.
    – sleep with silk scarf, it prevents breakage that comes with rubbing hair against harsh surfaces.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:47 pm

      Haha this was me! I went from relaxed to natural and I am now back to relaxed. Your tips are spot on!! Thank you for reading

    • Hampton

      November 26, 2015 at 3:13 am

      Ha, This was me as well! I love how natural hair looks for those who are successful taking care of it. I couldn’t make it work. I did learn that if I put half as much effort on my relaxed hair maybe I would have so much breakage.

  18. Open Sesame

    April 16, 2015 at 7:57 pm

    My dear BNers & Sharms,

    What’s the best way to moisturise your hair regularly whilst it’s under a weave esp a closed weave?

    Sharms, thanks for the article, excellent tips. x

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:45 pm

      Thank you for reading!! When you have a weave, I recommend castor oil for the scalp. You can use an applicator to get in between the braids.

    • Open Sesame

      April 16, 2015 at 11:33 pm

      You’re a star Sharms, thanks for responding.

    • Shandi

      April 16, 2015 at 11:56 pm

      Buy Castor Oil, it’s quick thick. You can mix it with a light oil like Coconut Oil and apply it on your hair. You can decide to use it on its own, but it’s quite thick. You can take B Complex and Folic Acid.
      Also, get one onion, cut them into chunks, put into a food processor, add a table spoon of honey and Aloe Vera Gel, with few drops of Eucalyptus or Peppermint Oil, and blend till you get a smooth paste. Apply on your hair, from the roots, to the scalp, apply all over your hair. Leave for 30minutes-1 hour (it has a strong smell), rinse with water and then shampoo. And of course, condition afterwards. This will help stimulate hair growth, reduce hair loss, and it also helps with dandruff. Do it once a week. Works well on both natural and relaxed hair.

  19. meee

    April 16, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    You are nt alone…i am also losing my hair too at age 25! Jst right in d middle and it seems to be extending to d front part. I have done every sort of test to be sure dat I am ok.The doctors keep saying I m fine n I shld give it time to grow.I am so worried and depressed abt it…From a young,radiant lady to an Apari! Pls help me o! I ve used various healthy hair tips…no result.This has gone on for two long..I even cut my hair low and started over….It is still d same bald spot in d middle!
    Help pls!

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:44 pm

      Please try castor oil for your edges, it works wonders!! Please check out these links for info on your hairline

    • Shandi

      April 16, 2015 at 11:57 pm

      Buy Castor Oil, it’s quick thick. You can mix it with a light oil like Coconut Oil and apply it on your hair. You can decide to use it on its own, but it’s quite thick. You can take B Complex and Folic Acid.
      Also, get one onion, cut them into chunks, put into a food processor, add a table spoon of honey and Aloe Vera Gel, with few drops of Eucalyptus or Peppermint Oil, and blend till you get a smooth paste. Apply on your hair, from the roots, to the scalp, apply all over your hair. Leave for 30minutes-1 hour (it has a strong smell), rinse with water and then shampoo. And of course, condition afterwards. This will help stimulate hair growth, reduce hair loss, and it also helps with dandruff. Do it once a week. Works well on both natural and relaxed hair.

  20. kemi

    April 16, 2015 at 8:26 pm

    Growing a long hair can be amazing, I grow a long hair to the glory of God, people don’t believe me some time that it is a natural hair, because of the texture and the length. One of the things I do is that I relaxed the hair every 3 months in which I carry the hair for month by just washing and styling it after that I fixed a weavon for 2 months ( I may change the style 3 to 4 times depends) ,after that I relax again, it has been my hair routine for years. Also I have been using my hair relaxer since 2003, I discovered it is good for my hair and scalp and I stick to it. You can grow a nourished hair if you desire it, just give it all it takes

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:40 pm

      Exactly! It takes patience, and time and a lot of effort. Thank you for reading xx

  21. blow

    April 16, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    Ms. Sharms,
    I like the way you took out time to reply some of the comments; shows you are mannered and respect the readers.
    BN does that too.
    Other authors of articles here, please take note of that.
    Thank you.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:39 pm

      Thank you for your kind words xx

  22. true talks

    April 16, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    This article is wasted on most naija women who would rather die than be separated from their trashy weaves. Growing one’s natural air will take too much time and effort for the fake nails, fake hair and plastered make-up brigade.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:33 pm

      hahaa we have to keep trying! Thank you for reading xxx

  23. Worried Female

    April 16, 2015 at 9:04 pm

    Hi all, Please i moved to the UK a year ago but my biggest problem has been my hair. I think the weather has really affected my hair. The breakage is alarming, the hair on the edges of my hair are gone and also at the back . I don’t know what to do. I’m at a loss right now, i don’t know if I should simply cut the whole hair off and grow it from scratch. Please does any one know any good hair stylist that can advice me on what to do?. Like my hair is really in a bad shape. Thanks.

    • Jessica

      April 16, 2015 at 9:30 pm

      I think you should cut it all off and start again to be honest, After you cut it stay natural for at least a year (if youre not already natural) before relaxing it. You’ll be shocked at how much your hair will grow in a year.

    • Sharms

      April 16, 2015 at 9:39 pm

      Hi! I have a million and one hair care tips on

      The main thing is to make sure your hair is well moisturized as the atmosphere is very dry in the UK. You don’t have to cut off your hair, just take extra care of it and you will begin to notice a change

    • Anon

      April 16, 2015 at 10:50 pm

      It’s not the weather, it’s the water. Hard water isn’t kind to our hair. I soften my water and then use it on my hair. Tedious but it works.

  24. Jessica

    April 16, 2015 at 9:22 pm

    I don’t think her hair is that long, all the tips are amazing but the number one reason why relaxed hair breaks in my opinion is because a lot of women relax the same piece of hair over and over again, you’re literally just meant to touch the re growth once forever, never overlap already relaxed hair.

    • Sharms

      April 17, 2015 at 11:45 am

      Yes, it is actually not at my goal length, but these are results after being relaxed for only a year and a half after being natural for 10 months. I think its great progress and shows a lot of potential for the future. Thanks for reading!! xx

  25. i no send

    April 16, 2015 at 10:22 pm

    please i need a salon on the island that handles natural relaxed hair the way it should be and can also give a good hair cut

    • Bolu

      April 17, 2015 at 8:59 pm

      There is no such thing as natural relaxed hair. If something has been changed from its natural state through chemical or processing its no longer natural. Same thing applies to food.

    • Layo

      December 17, 2015 at 11:26 pm

      Nectar Studio in Lekki is good. They have pleasant staff and lots of great products.

  26. ASGRL

    April 16, 2015 at 10:59 pm

    But these are also the also the best practices for growing long natural hair.

    I think the only other two tips not mentioned are 1) making sure not to overlap your Relaxer. i.e. the relaxer should be only applied to the new growth and 2) not over processing. Stick to the times mentioned in the instructions.

    The story shouldn’t just be about healthy natural. It should be about healthy hair. Through my natural hair journey, I follow relaxed hair gurus like (UloveMegz and Kibibi hair on youtube) and natural hair gurus like (Naptural85, CharyJay, Osa Osula) also on Youtube.

    Its not about any special product. Its about technique.

    • Sharms

      April 17, 2015 at 11:46 am

      Exactly!! Growing long hair is basically about taking the time and making an effort to take care of it. Most of these tips go both ways (relaxed & natural). Thank you for reading!!

  27. Jessica

    April 16, 2015 at 11:35 pm

    how do you soften hard water?

    • Open Sesame

      April 17, 2015 at 4:16 am

      Best way is to get a water softener installed to your main water supply so your whole house has softened water. Softened water is not recommended for drinking though, so get a separate tap for drinking filtered hard water. Google it. It can be pricey so another way is to get a shower head that has an attachment with the water softening chemicals and replace your current shower head with it – again google it 🙂

    • Naija. Hair Can Grow

      April 20, 2015 at 7:33 pm

      Hi Jessica, I wrote an entire post on hard water on my blog, check this link for details- X

  28. Rollie

    April 17, 2015 at 12:35 am

    Wow!!! This is just for me thanks a zillion for this and please i want it in my mail too… muah!!!!!!

  29. sussy

    April 17, 2015 at 9:40 am

    I follow almost all the rules, my hair grows length wise but is very scanty, what can i do to make it fuller? then again i notice that if i fix a weave for a month and remove it, the hair breaks like no mans business, how do I strengthen the hair, because I cant braid and use wigs all the time. Am not so much about the length but the strength of the hair.Thanks

    • Sharms

      April 17, 2015 at 12:08 pm

      This means that your hair doesn’t like the tautness of the braids which is why it breaks. Focus more on castor oil massages, deep conditioning and moisturizing. I have a lot more tricks on

  30. seun

    April 17, 2015 at 10:04 am

    Hi sharms where can I get castor oil, coconut oil nd shea oil and moringa oil. Because my hair is breaking seriously. Thanks

    • Sharms

      April 17, 2015 at 12:09 pm

      Hey! Depends On where you live. You can get castor oil from the pharmacy and coconut & moringa oil from any health food shop. I can only give specific shops in Ghana. Thanks for reading!

  31. MissSomebody

    April 17, 2015 at 11:18 am

    I don’t follow any rules, my hair naturally grows steadily, and maintains its thick silky full texture. Countless times people ask, “is this your natural hair”? Truth is for some its just the genes and probably maybe a good diet, for others you might have to work to get it BUT NOTE! What works for A might NOT work for B.

    In most cases we try too much on our hair from “other” people’s testimony, ending up with more damage to our hair. Try to study and stick to what works for your hair, don’t just jump on the bandwagon. I remember trying a particular hair product which some others have testified does wonders to their hair, and then my hair began shedding and breaking unusually. I stopped after some usage. Just to make sure, I tried it again after a long while, getting the same hair shedding. That was when I knew that it wasn’t for me.

    I do not do anything extravagant to my hair. I relax my hair every 4 months, I do not over process my hair. I trim the tips and do not allow relaxer on the tips. I wash regularly, condition and moisturize. I do not use hot curling irons and hand dryers. When I am styling at a salon I always use rollers and and head dryers. I see the way a lot of ladies handle their hair very poorly and still wish to have better hair. The outcome of your hair in most cases is what you feed it, at other times, its just not how extreme you go. But then there are much more important things in life we should be dead worried about! 😀

    My 2cent.

    • Sharms

      April 17, 2015 at 12:08 pm

      Lucky you! Some of us have to put in the extra effort or we won’t get any growth. Thanks for reading and commenting!

  32. wunmi

    April 17, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    A very insightful article. Sharms I also like that you reply the comments that’s thoughtful. Thank you. Please I’d like to know if its the regular castor oil from the pharmacy- the one for constipation. Because I got that some days ago and my sister said it is not for hair and that I should have gotten the black Jamaican castor oil.

    • Sharms

      April 20, 2015 at 12:19 pm

      I use the castor oil that can be ingested, however, Jamaican Black Castor Oil is highly recommended. You can still use the one you bought, it works fine. Thank you for the kind words!

  33. Aussie grl

    April 17, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Omg! Thank you so much for tips on growing my hair healthy. Have never heard such in depth information on the topic. Refreshing.

    • Sharms

      April 20, 2015 at 12:24 pm

      Thank you for your kind words!1

  34. maiden

    April 17, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    Very insightful piece.
    Please Sharms,
    1. I want to find out what I can do to relieve myself of painful scalp. Any little pulling on/of my hair hurts. I have long and very full hair. Braiding or fixing is always a big deal for me.
    2.Then again when I touch up, especially when wet and the hair is being combed through, a good quantity of hair pulls out with the comb. Even though, I ignore it because I have full hair, I still want to know if it’s a bad sign and if yes, what can be done to stop it? I have once read, it isn’t wise to comb a wet hair because at that stage it is very weak and pulls easily. How true???

    • Tosin

      April 19, 2015 at 8:57 am

      I have the softest everything in the world. Can’t do relaxers, verified. I just accept that that’s it. Love it. I just respect the scalp. Don’t bother the scalp. Let it be.

    • Sharms

      April 20, 2015 at 12:24 pm

      Hi! Make sure your hair is very well conditioned before you put a comb to it, especially when wet. Also make sure you use a wide tooth comb as smaller combs tend to pull out the hair more. As for the tender scalp, I believe it is something you have to live with, it is best to stick to hair styles that don’t require too much tugging and pulling. Thank you for reading xx


    April 17, 2015 at 4:03 pm

    Hi sharms, nice write up. but come o, want to try castoil on my hair but scared of the smell. while we are on the subject, how good is avocado and honey to the hair?

    • Sharms

      April 20, 2015 at 12:22 pm

      Hi! It is recommended you use it at night, so you can escape the smell during the day. It is also very thick, so a little goes a long way. Honey is a good moisturizer, but note that it lightens the hair (colour) and avocado oil can also be mixed in with your deep conditioner to provide more oils. Thank you for reading!


      April 20, 2015 at 4:17 pm

      Thank u so much.. Any particular way to use the castoil?

  36. Jassy

    April 17, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    I am so happy someone has finally shared an article on having healthy hair that is RELAXED. You needn’t keep your hair natural to have healthy hair! My mum and sisters have long hair that is relaxed, so does one of my close friends. I’m tired of people making it seem like those who relax want to be European, that’s entirely false. It’s a matter of preference, that’s why we all have our own hair on our own head!
    Thank you! I’ll take your tips into account as I’ve decided to pay more attention to my (relaxed) hair too now! <3

    • Sharms

      April 20, 2015 at 12:21 pm

      Yess! Agreed! Thank you for reading!

  37. Tosin

    April 19, 2015 at 8:55 am

    Nice article.
    I remember there was a lot of intelligence about hair maintenance among African-American women, their salons. Me, could never be bothered, like you want me to think about my hair, protective-style what? Why? I cut my hair off within a month. Saved money lool.

    • Sharms

      April 20, 2015 at 12:20 pm

      haha thank you for reading!

  38. Afia

    April 19, 2015 at 11:47 pm

    may i know de particular type of castor oil to buy from drug store. i hv bald hair n my hair too does grow at all.

    • Sharms

      April 20, 2015 at 12:20 pm

      Hi Afia, you can go for the Jamaican Black Castor Oil! Thanks for reading!

  39. Nelly

    April 20, 2015 at 2:10 pm

    Hi sharm
    Thankz a lot for d article.I want to know d best hair mayonnaise dat works well

    • Sharms

      April 21, 2015 at 11:43 am

      I love to use the ORS hair Mayonnaise

  40. chi-e-z

    April 21, 2015 at 3:06 am

    I don’t get why y’all call naturalistas natural nazis… I’m natural I don’t expect you to go “natural” just think it’s easier to manage your hair in it’s natural texture maybe my experience and I’m a lazy natural not even one of those proactive ones. Maybe b/c perm never ever worked on my hair anyways I was always the one with breakage damaged short had 2 straighten everyday yes even after I wrapped with wrapping foam at night. I just said 4get it. I’ll just rather take my hair naps and all took me almost 4yrs 2 get 2 twist out but who cares I rocked my fro hawks/ fro buns etc like I say water, olive oil occasionally Apple cider vinegar all I use. It makes sense since my skin is very sensitive 2 non-edible/non organic chemicals never linked my hair 2 be the same way.[idk] but I’ve basically almost turned 2 a few vegan lifestyle with my body except 4 cake thats my vice…i digress… well just love and nuture your body not just hair with things that are healthy. It helps alot of water,natural oils, and okro soup 😀

    • chi-e-z

      April 21, 2015 at 3:11 am

      oh and most of the hair care people I watch are not even natural or black sometimes for that matter. Do what works for you Prettywitty77 is a waistlenght relaxed /protective styler that’s good

  41. jojo

    April 22, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    my major problems wt my hair is that its bald at d front and hardly increase in lenght. i have use difrerent hair creams to no avail. pls recommend a treatment for me. thanks

    • Sharms

      May 18, 2015 at 12:02 pm

      Definitely try massaging your scalp with castor oil every night

  42. MzChar

    May 4, 2015 at 6:38 am

    Great tips but I’ve never met anyone with long healthy hair who relaxed every 3 months. That is not advisable. Every relaxed hair guru I know stretches to at least 6 months. Perhaps if the poster tried this she would actually have long hair. But we’ll done for healthy hair.

    • Sharms

      May 18, 2015 at 12:01 pm

      Thanks for reading and commenting! I have been relaxed for a year and a half after being natural for about 8 months. I think by growth has been steady enoughand at this rate, I believe that by the time I hit the 2 year mark, my length would have doubled! I is all about consistency for me

  43. taibat

    May 14, 2015 at 12:41 am

    Wow! Weldone. Okay I used to relax my hair, so I decided to go natural last 2 years becus I was tired of treating burnt scalp. My major problem now is my scalp, I can’t stop scratching even in the public I hide to scratch my head. Pls what should I do to stop the itch? Txn

    • Sharms

      May 18, 2015 at 12:02 pm

      For itchy scalp, I recommend tea tree oil

  44. Bella Disuja

    May 14, 2015 at 6:51 am

    I will really follow your all five tips to get healthy and strong hairs.

  45. Jesbadoma

    June 4, 2015 at 4:55 pm

    Thank you Sharms. I wish to have some tips on how to keep hair healthy even when exercising. I am an exercising freak, i love going to the gym and do so 4 to 5 times / week. In the course of my gym sessions, i sweat profusely and this even on my scalp. Consequently, my hair gets wet and weak. I am most often compelled to braid my hair or have a weave on when exercising. I am obliged to wash my hair very often (daily practically) because of the above.I however do not sweat on my scalp at ordinary times. What can you advise me to do? Thank you.

    • Sharms

      June 10, 2015 at 1:25 pm

      Hey! Thank you for reading. I actually have this problem myself. You can co wash your hair every 3 days (with conditioner alone) if you feel like you need to wash the sweat out. Using conditioner alone will not dry out your hair as shampoo would. I end up doing a lot of buns and up do’s when I work out a lot. I currently have braids in. I am glad that you do take time to work out as a lot of women stress about their hair when working out . I have a lot of hair tips and tricks on my beauty blog

  46. Ms. B

    July 15, 2015 at 9:41 pm

    Thank you for this article. I went natural in May (2015) because my relaxed hair was over processed by a stylist and I wanted to explore the natural look. Although I received many compliments and my hair was growing so fast, I learned so much on how to care for my hair in its natural state (wish I would have done this much research when I was relaxed) to where I am going back to relaxed hair armed with knowledge and geared to a healthy relaxed hair journey. To me you have to take just ad much care of your relaxed hair as you do natural hair. I never deep conditioned my Relax hair and wouldn’t wash it weekly. I wash my natural hair on Sundays and Cowash on Wednesday. It has my hair so soft and strong…I continue to do this with my new relaxed hair.

  47. Mitesha

    July 16, 2015 at 7:54 pm

    I had my braids in for 4 and half wk and I was wondering how long should I wait to relax my hair plus I lost some of my edges not a lot but a little bit so what can I do to gain them back?

  48. Tracy Zao

    July 17, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    I’ve heard good things about Moringa. It apparently helps strengthen hair, soften skin, and treat dozens of illnesses

  49. abigail antwi

    October 14, 2015 at 4:17 pm


  50. abigail antwi

    October 14, 2015 at 4:18 pm

    Madam sharms

  51. abigail antwi

    October 14, 2015 at 4:30 pm


  52. Nonyr

    October 31, 2015 at 10:33 pm

    I gained a lot here.Thanks…

  53. Stavros

    December 1, 2015 at 4:56 am

    Where to get castor oil? Would like to try this out.

  54. Olivia Sherwin

    December 17, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    This is some great information, and I appreciate your point that a braid can be a good protective hairstyle. I didn’t realize that certain hairstyle could protect your ends more than others! I’ve been wanting to grow my hair out for a while, but I’ve been worried about split ends, so I’ll definitely give braiding it a try! Thanks for the great post!

  55. shan

    January 24, 2016 at 3:57 am

    Visit I’m natural she’s relaxed 9on Facebook we discuss simply healthy hair. I’m a lic. Stylist of 23 years and also sell authentic tic black jamaicancan castor oil. Also look at website for products that will care for you relaxed or natural hair! Enjoyed great read! bow I’m lot’s and love it!

  56. barbie

    February 1, 2016 at 6:19 pm

    I’m a university student…I graduated from high school last year July….but then I relaxed my hair and since then…my hair has been short and some ppl have told me to cut my hair and start afresh…pls sharms…I’m begging…what do I do

  57. Betty

    March 21, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    I have a very long relaxed hair please help me. I was told to cut it and start it all over

  58. Wella Anderson

    June 3, 2016 at 10:07 pm

    Hey there ! Thanks for the tips i will start trying them for sure
    Im facing great problems with my hair ..i used to have an extra thick hair when i was 12 and at the moment i was fed up with the combing so i relaxed it ….after releaxing it every 8 months i realized my hair is starting to fall off and my hair became very thin
    Every 4 months i cut my hair it grows to the same length breaks and never grows any inch further so i cut it and goes on
    Now i have a natural hair and i find it very hard working with it and i cant really catch up with its lenth anymore
    Alot suggested the protein treatment relaxer and i dont really know what to do i most often use the JUST FOR ME

  59. Milly

    June 22, 2016 at 8:05 am

    Hi,thanks for the tips,
    My hair is always breaking at the back . do you have any tips for that?

    • Sharms

      June 22, 2016 at 11:45 am

      Hey Milly! Sorry, I am just seeing your comment. If your hair is breaking at the back it could be one of these reasons or all of them
      1. Your hair might be rubbing on your clothes eg shirt collars, scarves
      2. Your pony tail holders may be pulling out your hair or ‘cutting them off’ where the pony tail is
      3. You are not taking the time to moisturize the hair at the back of your hair

      Hope this helps to fix the issue. As always I recommend massaging your scalp with castor oil at least once a day and make sure to focus on the back of your hair.

  60. Rosh

    August 6, 2016 at 3:41 pm

    Hey Sharms can I have tips on getting my hair really light.. I have light brown hair but I want it more to blonde/light can I have tips on that please

  61. modester muchanya

    August 26, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    this is so helpful but the challenge here is that l’m in zimbabwe some oils are no longer found here so help me guys

  62. Akua

    August 28, 2016 at 1:16 am

    Am 12 yr old girl 4rm Ghana Where can I get Jamaican Black Castor Oil and Amla oil

  63. Angela Weddington

    August 31, 2016 at 3:37 pm

    This is amazing, thank you so much!

  64. glossylocks

    September 1, 2016 at 10:02 pm

    Hello Sharms,
    I’ve been reading a lot of relaxed hair care tips online and I can’t wait to start my hair journey. However, the only thing preventing me from starting my hair journey is my mum. Because I’m only 15 years old, I still live under the supervision of my mum. My mum doesn’t buy into any of the hair care tips online and continues to damage her hair. Whenever I bring up the hair care tips I’ve learned online, she becomes offended. Is there any way I could make my mum at least acknowledge the hair tips online? Thanks!

  65. Mikeria Johnson

    November 15, 2016 at 2:09 pm

    My hair was shoulder Lenght but I have got it cut bc it wasn’t even I been growing my hair out sencr may i have been wearing braids to grow it out taking them out 3 months and I want to know how long would it take to grow it back

  66. Wanda Beasley

    January 15, 2017 at 4:53 am

    Hi Sharms, I like me hair relaxed but my sister talk me to going natural. I went natural for eight months I didn’t like it. So I went back to a relaxer I did this 3 times and now I just gotten a relaxer again please help me make up my mind on what I need to do with my hair.

  67. sidra khan

    January 24, 2017 at 11:09 am

    Thanks its amazing work for me 🙂

  68. Jasmine Thibodeaux

    March 2, 2017 at 2:46 am

    Can you please give me more tips on how to grow relaxed hair because my hair stops at little bit under my shoulders but it is constantly breaking #help

  69. Afia A

    April 13, 2017 at 1:58 am

    Please i just started my hair journey…it looks like is breaking more…what is the problem? I moisturise n seal everyday…n my hair is very hard naturally….what should i do

  70. Oforiwaa

    June 8, 2017 at 12:06 pm

    Most of us don’t see much growth from the duration in relaxers. Its best to have relaxer every three months or twice a year. Give this a try !!!

  71. Abigail Antwi

    January 14, 2019 at 11:01 pm

    Rilli like your hair was yours but got damage by one hair now have Barb my hair .but have decided to start it again,and I know you give me some for my hair…thank u miss your hair…

  72. Abigail antwi

    January 15, 2019 at 12:36 am

    Rili like your hair ..want some tips to start mine plxxx.thank uu

  73. Aisha

    February 2, 2019 at 3:16 pm

    Please, I’d love to know what relaxer to use. Presently, I use Just for me relaxer and I tried to use ORS olive oil twice but went back to Just For Me. My hair is really coarse and stubborn. What is your advice?

  74. adam t

    May 6, 2019 at 11:09 pm

    Thanks for your article, I will share t with my wife

  75. Theodora Elikplim

    November 21, 2019 at 9:55 am

    Thanks so much beautiful

  76. Matt Stephens

    January 25, 2020 at 5:18 pm

    I’m so gonna share these tips with my girlfriend. I’m sure she’s gonna love them. She has been growing a natural hair for quite some time now; however, after using several hair foods, her hair continues to twist easily and as a result, she only gets to flaunt her natural hair only once in a blue moon.

  77. Ephraim danlami

    October 8, 2021 at 4:31 am

    Wonderful post here, thanks for sharing.


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