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BN Self-Examine Sundays: The Key to Self – Motivation in 3 Simple Steps



Meditation Emoji - Self-Motivation - BN Self-Examine Sundays - BellaNaija - 2016 - Pinterest ImageHi BellaNaijarians – Happy Sunday!

This is diabanjo and I am back with the second edition of BN Self-Examine Sundays, for those of you who missed the introduction – click here. The notion behind these Sunday posts is to add inspirational messages to your new week from day 1. The inspiration is gathered from all aspects of life, from commitment to well-being and even how to boost your daily morale.

I apologize for the two weeks I’ve missed, I was lost stumbling on a few rocks of my own. This is exactly why I decided to touch upon making a huge comeback from a major setback, before anything else.

Whenever you are going through a tough time, remember that each step in life is a phase and it often doesn’t last as a long as we may predict. However, during this period we must go through self-motivation, which is by far one of the hardest tasks one can master in life.

But, with all the ups and downs we need to be aware that we can not rely on the encouragement of others alone, situations may arise where we only have ourselves to rely on and the strength in our comeback is what determines a successful individual from a failure.

Here are 3 simple steps to train your mind when things go downhill and you are steadily finding a way to pick yourself back up again.

Be Inspired!

  • Refrain – Thoughts control us as our mind is the strongest role model we own, avoid over-thinking, trying to change things before they occur, complicating simple situations with doubt are things we need to AVOID. Refrain from vocalizing negative utterances about yourself, your life and plans you have made. Do not expect the worse, it doesn’t help you health wise and we are all aware that if you say something enough times, the universe somehow listens and it happens.
  • Refocus – Take control of your life, take pride in the small stuff, set goals and make short-long term plans. Share your experiences and gain more knowledge on how to achieve more, train your mind with personal development courses, develop skills and find ways to maintain your craft by recording your daily progress and examine yourself weekly, monthly and yearly. What have I achieved? what could I have done better and what do I want to do next?
  • Reclaim – Speak positivity into existence, consistency is usually the greatest motivator. Stay focused and adhere to the plan you have made to uplift your morale by being happy. TRAVEL and READ ! The broader your mindset, the greater the heights you predict for yourself and reward yourself often, no matter how big or small an achievement is.

All in all, give yourself time to grow, make mistakes and focus on learning something new daily.

“Walking in a straight line will only raise a narrow mind” – diabanjo

Listen to Adekunle Gold “Pick Up” here to warm up your soul!


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Diabanjo is a member of the BellaNaija Weddings Team. She obtained a Bachelors degree in English from Coventry University and is an unpublished short story writer, distinctly known for her unique metaphors with a drop of self-indulgence. She is a passionate minimalist and particularly loves to read romance genre, with a mesmerizing interest in 21st century bridals. Visit to view her write-ups & feel free to send an email to [email protected] for weddings/bridal related inquiries. Be You!

1 Comment

  1. Winnie

    June 19, 2016 at 3:02 pm

    Thank you for the write up. It’s inspiring.

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